Family

As Mourning Rituals Change, What Comes Next?

When my grandmother died, she didn't want a funeral. She did have thoughts about what we should do with her ashes.

Jul 06, 2020
Do Not Marry a Politician and Other Kitchen Table Things

I've long been taught that the appearance of a good marriage, not a good marriage necessarily, is the ultimate goal.

Jun 29, 2020
In Utero, In a Pandemic

When I say I love you, you know exactly what I mean, that this, our love, our family, is a small, fierce revolution.

Jun 01, 2020
The Mother of Reckoning

One of my mothers, I thought, could be dead.

May 19, 2020
How My Family Cookbook Brought Me Back Home

We weren’t exactly rewriting our family traditions, but it felt good knowing that there was still a place for me in them.

May 12, 2020
Dying in America, or How to Become Completely Invisible

There is no guidebook or set of rules for us to follow; there is no concrete “American” etiquette around death.

I Want My Mommy and I’m Glad She’s Not Alive for Covid-19

I wish I could talk to my mom about the irony that, forty years later, shelves are being ransacked and we are standing in lines to buy bread.

Apr 23, 2020
Learning to Eat While Pregnant and Recovering from an Eating Disorder

I pray my baby will love their body, or at least accept it, and carry it around the world, just as I have carried them too, with pride and joy.

Apr 07, 2020
All That Is Lost and All That Is Remembered

Naz Riahi reflects on how the violent death of her father when she was a young girl impacted the rest of her life

Apr 01, 2020
All That I Can’t Carry

The life of my Lolo and my family in the Philippines is a deep reminder that people live full lives there and places like it, across the globe.

Mar 30, 2020
What Tarot Taught Me About the Stories We Tell

I’ve read that trauma disrupts time. That violent events are recorded differently in the brain.

Mar 25, 2020
Gathering Visions of the End of the World

Everyone talks about sea levels and temperatures rising, but there's also the more tangible inevitability of the soil running out.

Mar 16, 2020
The ‘Survivor’ Notebook

I remember the day Mom said “stage IV metastatic,” so now I need a show with forty seasons.

Mar 10, 2020
In Search Of: Grandmas

Our son will grow up without grandmas, but we want him to remember these wonderful women he'll never get the chance to meet.

My Family’s Relationship with the Unseen

Maybe my dreams were trying to tell me something. Maybe I had what I liked to call, jokingly, “the ElGenaidi Gift.”

Mar 04, 2020
Smoky & Jack, the One-Woman Dogs

Is it as eerie as I think it is, this mirroring: the one-woman dogs; the girl babies who come too early, too small?

Mar 02, 2020
Mourning My Dad and the Dog He Never Wanted

If I could save her, I would. I needed to feel that it was in my power to save her, to save something. I didn’t need her to be uncomplicated. I didn’t need a good dog. I needed her.

Feb 11, 2020
My Journey from “Spare Parent” to Stepparent

If there was one thing I was clearly not cut out for, it was being a stepmom.

Jan 21, 2020
How My Mother Protected Us from My Father and Found Solace in Art

My mother described the Rembrandt paintings as her friends. I'd never heard anyone talk about art that way, instilling it with something like a personhood of its own.

Dec 10, 2019
Wherever the Limdi Grows: Growing Up Gujarati in Southern California

I deliberately and obstinately use the word ‘limdi’ and not the term ‘curry leaf’ because the word ‘curry’ has always bothered me.

Dec 09, 2019