May 10, 2021
Staying Sober Through 2020
On January 6, 2021, I was 1,328 days sober. As domestic terrorists attempted a coup on the United States government, my heart broke for anyone on Day 6 of sobriety.
Longboarding My Way Out of Loneliness
When I tried to skateboard as a kid, the neighborhood boys refused to welcome me. Now, women and gender-diverse people are creating skateboarding communities all over the world.
Oct 28, 2020
How to Be Gay and Safe in Nigeria
“The singular duty you owe yourself is to be alive. Don’t jeopardize that for unsolvable peril.”
Jun 28, 2018
How I Learned to Stop Judging and Love Insta-Witches
“The whole idea of a spell is that you send your intention outward into the universe—what if the Internet is just another way to do that?”
Jun 07, 2018
How Do I Accept That My Friends Have Moved On Without Me?
There is no way to ask the question “Why don’t you like me anymore?” that will bring you peace.
Jan 16, 2018
Why I Wanted to Write About Anger
I want to write about space and time, and feeling like somehow we’ve always had less of it than our male counterparts.
Jan 05, 2018
How Do I Keep My Old Work Friends Without the Old Work Drama?
“Friendship is here to delight and expand and challenge and deepen you, not to be a hand dragging you back into the pit.”
Dec 11, 2017
Please Don’t Pray for Us—We’ll Have Children When We’re Ready!
People I hardly knew implied that without children, I was failing as a woman, a Muslim, and a human being.
Nov 30, 2017
I’m Just Not That Into Him (As a Friend)—How Do I Gently Shut Him Down?
“Think of yourself as Beyoncé, or Lin-Manuel Miranda: Everyone wants to be friends with them, and that’s not possible.”
Nov 14, 2017
How Not to Do Peyote When You’re Panicking About Fascism
If many voters had emptied their minds of reason and empathy, had these spiritual tourists not done the same?
Nov 02, 2017
How to Mark a Child’s Religious Milestones
Shoshana and Saadia discuss milestones and coming-of-age ceremonies in their respective faith traditions.
Oct 26, 2017
Sometimes I Want to March
Despite hopes that writing is enough to cope with reality, to admit we should do something other than writing was liberating.
Oct 24, 2017
Can I Be Happy With My Male Partner When I Dream About Dating a Creative, Intellectual Woman?
Deep fantasies aren’t fantasy at all. They can reveal who we actually are.
Sep 28, 2017
“God will not forgive until the person you have wronged forgives”: On Repentance, Faith, and Family Life
“God is sometimes easier to please than our fellow humans.”
Sep 20, 2017
The Story I Can’t Write About My Family
In fiction, one needs motivations, wants, and fears; one needs cause and effect. In life, it’s messier.
Sep 14, 2017
How Watching Movies Helped Me Write a Book About Music
What I wanted to say about Arcade Fire’s “The Suburbs” has everything to do with the movies and TV series I love.
Sep 08, 2017
How to Coauthor a Book and Stay Good Friends
“You should absolutely burn a penis candle before doing anything important.”
Aug 28, 2017
The Invisibles: American Polarization and the Reality Gap
“The fracturing of our political reality is a wound a long time in the making.”
Aug 16, 2017
Why I Cannot Write About My Father
“There is no word that explains how girls love absent fathers.”
Jul 26, 2017
You’ll Feel a Pinch: An Attempt to Get Birth Control to Outlast a Presidency
“Taking care of our bodies is a privilege when it should be a right.”
Jul 13, 2017
